Good morning lovelies, yes I know I said I was going to post this yesterday but I I already had 2 in a row so I thought I would space it out a little. So today’s topic is how to deal with a toxic friendship or relationship.
I want to start out by saying I’m not going to use names and just know I don’t hate any one of the girls that I am talking about we just drifted apart and found what was best for us and found people with similar interest as we grew and changed.
Anyways back to my point, sometimes you get too lost in what is “normal/familiar” to realize what is “best for you”. Especially in high school your going to meet a ton of people and the friends you meet in the first few weeks aren’t neccesarily going to be your friends when you graduate but that’s okay. The way my school program worked was little different than most. I had the same people in my class from JK till grade 12 (9-12 only my courses taught in french were still with the same people). Well grade 9 I was still good friends with all of the ones I graduated grade 8 with, but started to do my own things like joined the cheerleading team (where I met some older girls who helped me a lot in high school). I also branched out to new people because grade 9 I didn’t have anyone form my “normal” friend group in any of my classes so I met a lot of new people that way.
So long story short as high school went on I grew a lot and the people I started out with didn’t really, they stayed in the same group (to this day) and there values/interest just weren’t the same as mine anymore, it wasn’t until part way through grade 12 were I decided I was tired of trying to fit into this group I thought I had to be friends with and then without trying I just fell into my current group of friends, we shared similar interest and they actually cared about me, this was also when I joined interact (part of Rotary, also did stuff with We) and got super involved with my school which I never would’ve done if I stayed in my “original” friend group. And Interact has given me so many cool opportunities, like We Day Toronto and if it weren’t for RYLA I never would’ve met some of my current friends (check out my previous posts about Rotary and We). These 3 girls taught me what it’s like to have a real friend and I’m so thankful for it. Like I’ve mentioned before RYLA helped me to branch out to new people and to have an open mind.
I am now going into my first year of university and I already met about 3 amazing girls who are the sweetest and most motivating group of girls I have ever met. Honestly did not know girls like them existed.
I don’t regret my experiences with my past friends, I learned from them and in a way it helped me to become who I am today so really I would thank them for that.
I hope you one day have the chance to find your true friends and the people your meant to be with. Stick with it and it will happen. Hope you have a great rest of you day☺️
Remember it’s not bad and your not a horrible person for wanting to move on, that’s called growing up and maturing. Don’t let anyone else tell you differently.
All opinions are my own. Photography by Niki Saunders Insta: @nik_saunders and @Simplicity_Phot